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Happiness and relationships.

In my last relationship, there was a huge fundamental flaw that I never noticed. Both him and I were looking for happiness and fulfillment within each other rather than focusing on achieving happiness and fulfillment within. He expected me to make him happy and fulfilled and I expected him to make me happy and fulfilled. It was a bad approach on so many levels such as:

  1. That is entirely too much pressure to put on someone.
  2. You can never find true happiness by looking for someone else or something else to give it to you.
  3. It is a lazy approach that shows you are unwilling to take the responsibility of defining your own happiness.

I now approach my relationship as we are both grown adults who are responsible for our own happiness in life, but we are also partners who seek to make each other happier. Own your own happiness and then rock life with your other half – it is a whole hell of a lot better that way.

Shitty values.

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I have been reading a very hilarious and helpful book. It has brought me to tears from laughing so hard and it has often left me deep in thought from the simple yet profound statements in it. The above image is under “Shitty Values” and it sat so well with me that I wanted to share.

When I have found myself in a shitty situation and been pissed off or, ya know, feeling shitty about it, I have had people tell me that “life is 10% about what happens to you and 90% about how you react to it.” Nobody needs to be positive all the time. There isn’t always positive in every situation. It is okay to be real and raw with your emotions and admit that you feel defeated by life at the moment. It is okay to sing Limp Bizkit’s “Break Stuff” on repeat to help prevent you from completely losing your shit. That doesn’t mean it’s okay to lose your shit and be unkind or unruly, but it does mean that it is okay to admit you aren’t loving your life at the moment and the shit that is being thrown at you is indeed bothersome. Live your true feelings and realize it’s not always sunshine, rainbows, and butterflies.

Technology helps fuel romance if you let it.

There you were, just standing in the kitchen as your adorable, handsome self. I came up to you and we embraced each other in that way we always do and you started dancing with me. I then said the words. “Okay, Google, play love songs.” She then mumbled something about beats between the sheets and as you can imagine, freaky tunes started. “Damnit, Google, get your mind out of the gutter. Okay, Google, play Boyz II Men.” She started playing some good R&B and we continued dancing. I then really upped the romance by getting Google to turn the TV off and dim the lights to 15%. We finished our dance, but we also made sure to get some sarcasm, laughs, and kisses in there.

There’s nobody in this world I would rather dance in the kitchen with while making starter boyfriend jokes and ultimately deciding we would have to split the waffle iron and have open faced waffles if I ever left after being new and improved (complete with a sports car, fancy knives, a better job, and a new house). Thank you for being my partner, my constant, my biggest supporter, my best friend (with benefits 😏), and someone that gets me so completely.